The Losing Culture

The Man had asked me to take a ride, he had to drop something off to a particular See You Next Tuesday that neither of us could stand, and he didn't want to deal with her alone. The real issue was that he didn't want to go to jail for hauling off and punching her dead in the face, a very realistic probability. The minute I had gotten into the car my stomach tied in a knot and a deep anxiety over took me.

It wasn't that he can't drive and my life was in danger that did it; he can't, and it was, but that wasn't it. What gave me that uneasiness, I discovered later, was that I despise this person so much that the idea of being around her was making me sick. As soon as he did what he had to do, and we left her at some random ghetto bodega, the anxiety, the knot in my stomach..... they completely disappeared.

James Brown

On the way home, turning to the right to see a woman that looked exactly like James Brown a thought came over me that made many of my recent struggles come clearly into focus. It had nothing to do with the God Mother of Soul. HEH!

Danielle Lloyd

In sports we often talk about certain teams, the ones that never win and seem to always find ways to lose even when the fete appears unthinkable, the franchises that do every thing all wrong and can never end the trend, having what they call "Losing Cultures". These teams are so defined by their losing ways that its all they seem to know how to do. It gets to the point where its all pervasive, it fills every member of the organization, from the front office to the coach and right down to the players themselves.

All one has to do is to watch them once, see the lethargy with which they approach their daily activity and its clear as day.... its as if their will has been broken, that they've lost hope of better days, they've given up. These teams expect to lose, and so they do.

Alessandra Ambrosio

When it comes to turning things around for these franchises they very first thing they do is talk about "Changing the Culture" of the organization. But when people are conditioned to lose on a daily basis its nearly impossible to turn them around and snap them out of it. Just like with social programs such as welfare, psychologically, when people get used to a thing you just can't take it away from them. So the only option left is to dump everyone on the club with that losers mentality and replace them with people who not only know how, but expect to win.

This concept of the Losing Culture isn't exclusive to sports, it infiltrates every group in life whether that be a business, a family, group of friends or anything else. When morale is low it affects everyone. When everyone morale is low its like walking into a dive bar full of old men with no teeth, rancid breath, and all of them passed out with their heads on the counter. There aren't going to be any supermodels walking through that door, no new money coming in, nothing. It just continues to stay the same until those old men die off or the bar goes under. Depressing, isn't it?

I'm always going on about support systems and how imperitive they are to success, yet when I walked into my house and looked around, when I looked back at the groups of people I had surrounded myself with, it struck me that I am currently, and have always been, a member of a losing culture. Not only had I been trained to lose, and to expect to do so every time, but so had everyone else around me.

This is where preachers of the Law Of Attraction and Success Principles the world over will tell you every time that you have to get as far away from negative people as you can, because they will infect you with their losing ways and drag you down with them. The only way to change that, to save yourself and break through to the winning side is to change the culture.

But how does one just cut off their friends? Worse yet, how do they cut off their family? Unless you're just completely cold hearted its all but impossible, isn't it? Its especially difficult when, like you, they too were raised in that same losing culture, and the losing ways were never really their fault.

There are way more people out there in the world that have been subjected to this very thing than there aren't, and the real bitch of it all is that they, more than anyone else, need positive people, positive influences, what we call WINNERS, to help them make that positive change in their lives. Except these winners want nothing to do with them, afterall, who wants their own winning culture to be infected with someone else's losing ways? Who wants to be dragged down? No one.

That right there, my friends, that space in between, is the gap we need to find a bridge to cross if we, as a society, are ever going to close the separation between the have's and the have nots. But it takes real courage from both in order to do so, a social courage that's in short supply in today's world.

One person who doesn't seem to have this problem is University of Georgia Head Football Coach Mark Richt. It had come out that he had been paying is assistants and support staff who make his job possible out  of his own pocket with the school he worked for refused to do so. That's called integrity, and I now have a new, deep respect for this man, and will now root for the Georgia Bulldogs as long as he's a part of what they do there. I hope we can all learn from his example.

On a stranger note, a kid with two heads was born in Brazil recently. You have to read this article, they explain how normally cut off one of the heads very nonchalantly, but couldn't do it with this one because they're both healthy heads.

My final Christmas message to you, my hope, my wish from you all, is that these holidays you change you mind set to be more like Mark Richt. Take it upon yourself to show the people around you who may be down on their luck that they too can be a winner in life, and make sure that you help see them through to the other side. You might not just be saving one life, but changing the culture for an entire troupe of people. And what else could this time of year really be about?

And now Santa and that lovely young lady up top will be moving us towards ringing in that New Year, so I'm out of here for now.

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The hole in the soul and Universal Consciousness

For the last few hours I've been haunted. I checked out a Welsh film called "submarine" last night and it left me glaring deep into the hole in my soul, staring at the empty space with thoughts drifting to what I know is missing from that place. It happens. We all get these moments, for some they never seem to go away... though I'm not too concerned with all that. Nothing a good laugh won't solve, or anything else that puts you in a positive frame of mind... your happy place.

 My Happy Place

Successful people only spend 10% of their time thinking about a problem, the rest on the solution.

Oh... and the movie was weird. I ended up loving it, even if it did leave me haunted.

Have you ever seen a ray of light beam through your window? There's a glowing shaft piercing a darker world, and in that shaft floating particles dance and sway this way and that without any noticeable pattern.

The other day I sat on my bed and watched these particles swirl through the light. Its in these rare moments that we're able to see those swirling energies that fill the spaces in between, the power, the life we can't see, those essences that connect us all. Of course I had to try out my Jedi powers, reaching out with my feelings and asking the particles to come to me. Before my eyes in that ray of light whatever filled that place straightened, and in one continuous flow streamed towards me like a river. I wasn't at all surprised by that.

 Danielle Lloyd

So I pushed away, just to see what would happen. At first it appeared as a window curtain does when someone moves it to peak outside, the particles lifted, then separated, before flowing in one continuous stream in the other direction, away from me.

I know what you're thinking, this is just ridiculous, nonsense, crazy talk. After all, without seeing it themselves, who would believe it? No one, I know. So I went through the exercise again. Same results.

Take from that story what you will. I know what I believe from it, but then, I always have believed it, and our mind always seeks, and always finds, reasons to prove our beliefs right.

Just before I sat on the bed, before seeing the light, I caught "The Adjustment Bureau" starring Matt Damon and Emily Blunt. I can't quite put my finger on what it is about her, maybe the whole package, but I'm really into Emily Blunt.

Emily Blunt

The movie is about fate, soul mates and free will, with God running heaven as if its a major corporation, and his "employees" are charged with the task of giving people a slight nudge here and there to make sure we all play our part and everything goes according to plan. To do this they use "doors" that cut through the fabric of the universe, allowing them to move from one side of the planet to another in a moment. Except every once in a while someone (Damon) goes off the path, challenges what fate has in store for them, bucks their destiny, and all hell breaks loose.

Aside from being just a completely excellent movie, I've had these same exact ideas that were in this film floating around in my head, filling my dreams, for the better part of the last two years, right down to the doors, the slight nudges to adjust fate, and the feeling of connection with people as if there was supposed to be something more there, but it wasn't part of the plan, so someone kept it from happening.

Anthony Mackie

There's a line from the film where Anthony Mackie tells Damon "your father was a smart man, very smart, could have been more, wanted to be, but it wasn't part of the plan"

How many times have you felt that way yourself? I know I have many, many times.

Mackie, by the way, is an excellent actor, someone who's been in a lot of films now, but should be bigger than he is. He completely carried "We Are Marshall", which was a film that blew me away. "The Hurt Locker" isn't the same film without him, even if he wasn't the star of the film. His small part in "Real Steel" was well done, and now with this film, in which he's pivotal to the plot, I believe he can play just about any role.

So what did I take out of the entire experience of seeing a film that seemed as if it had been pulled completely from my own head, and turned out to be excellent?

Its Universal Consciousness baby, ever present, all pervasive God Mind. Just like the particles of light floating through the empty spaces, thought, all thought, dance and sway this way and that without any noticeable pattern through our heads, passing from my mind to yours and vice versa even across the great expanse of time and space.

And interesting side note here.... scientists can't explain what light is. Light is light. That's all they can say about it. Light is light. They don't even know where it comes from.

It wouldn't surprise me one bit if all we were, all everything is, are nothing more than those particles dancing in the light. How is it then that so few of us know the dance?

Switching gears a bit, the St. Louis Cardinals 2011 Payroll was 105.4 million and they were 11th in payroll. A full 1/3 of the league has a payroll over 100 million. I don't ever want to hear about anyone "buying" championships again.

The former Miss Venezuela, Eva Ekvall, just died of breast Cancer at 28 years old. How sad is that? I'm not about to tell you to think of that and be happy you don't have it so bad as the holidays roll in, I've always felt that that was a bullshit way of looking at the world. But I will say this, this life is the only thing any of us have, or will ever have, that is ever actually ours, and its all special. So be happy about something, whatever it is, and enjoy all of it as much as possible.

Eva Ekvall

Very uplifting, holiday cheery post today, huh? I know. That's why I kept on with the Sexy Santa Ladies today, who otherwise had nothing to do with anything I was talking about, to balance it all out.

But that's it for today.
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Sexy Santa and the Christmas Spirit?

Christmas is already over for me, we had to do the whole family thing this past Saturday due to scheduling and all that, so all I've got to look forward to involves Turduckin, Ringo and The Man

But that doesn't mean that I want to lose that Christmas spirit.

One thing is sure around this time of year, and that's that there are a lot of slutty pictures of ladies trying to be sexy for the holidays. If there's anything to prove how many nameless faces are out there trying to make it on nothing but how they look just Google Santa.

I tried to do it myself once, tried my sexy on for size, this is how it came out...

Yeah, so I had to hit you with that right off the bat. Its your own fault though. Not to worry, there will be plenty to cheer about this week, and that's not just the gifts under the tree. Christmas is supposed to be about family time, staying together....

Like these ladies right here. I'm usually not one for carolers, but if they were to sing at my door I think I could find it in my heart to wrastle up a donation. But its not all about that either. Sometimes we find ourselves in places we don't want to be this time of year, like stuck working, and it feels like we're locked in a dungeon....  often its about finding ways to make the most of things and appreciating what it is that we DO have....

So my cast is finally off, and the doctor hit me with another set back - 6 more weeks where I can't do anything. It makes sense the way this thing feels, my 6 year old niece was able to squeeze a ball that I couldn't do anything with.... my left hand is weaker than a 6 year old girls...

eh, I was weaker than a little girl before the arm thing, so who am I kidding?

Danielle Lloyd

Setbacks aren't an issue, we all have them in life, it's all about how we deal with them that matters. In the passed few weeks while I went ungroomed like some dirty animal I shifted from a restless soul that needed to do anything to get out of the house to one who's perfectly content sitting at home, blocking out anything that might happen in the world outside.

It's both good and bad, but this time its exactly what I needed. Besides.... this spot is all about accentuating the positives, isn't it?



And really, there's a lot to be positive about, little to get upset over.

After about three months I figured it was finally time to get off my ass and get myself a hair cut, and as soon as I walked in my barber started breaking my balls. I looked like a porn star from the 70's without the mustache, so it was well deserved, I had it coming.

Little things like that are what's great about life though, when you're close enough to someone to break balls without it meaning a damn thing, and you can laugh about it.

Maybe that's the New York Christmas spirit. It doesn't really matter to me because I've gotten to a place where I couldn't care less what anyone else thinks of me at all. That's a difficult transition for anyone who counts on whether others like what you have to say or do in order to make a living in the way you want. And it can lead to straight reckless behavior.

Whatever though. There's plenty of time to straighten up, we'll worry about that after the New Year. You've got to love this girls hips.

So the big news across the globe today is that North Korean Dictator Kim Jong Il bought the farm last night. Its ironic, people over there are barely able to eat. This isn't the time of year to talk bad about anyone though, not even violent oppressors, so in an effort to keep spreading cheer, try to find something good to say about the man...

Kim Jong Il was GREAT in Team America: World Police!

What is it about this pose that always seems to work? Ladies, if you can't find a way to look sexy on all fours, there's just no sexy for you at all, is there? Its the first shot they take up at the North Pole. They use this on their I.D. cards in Santa's Sweatshop.

This one doesn't speak any English, Santa gets all of his helpers from the same countries that supply the worlds mail order brides. Who do you think does the mailing? He's got to raise money for all those damn kids toys somehow, right?

In this day and age though, its difficult to give so much love to a fat old man who gets his jollies from little kids sitting on his lap, but luckily for Santa, if the whole Christmas thing doesn't work out, Penn State Football is hiring.

That's not very nice though. I have to work harder at this. Like that fine, upstanding young lady up above, I'm going to get out there, hit the trail, and find that Christmas spirit!

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Women can kick ass and still be SEXY!

There were too many damn pictures. I have to go through them all to pick out the right shots, and I hadn't realized how many I had taken. Without doing it, there was just no way I could do the story justice, and there wasn't enough time. So once again I had to switch gears today, go with something different.

I caught Green Lantern last night, a completely forgettable movie that I just couldn't get into, uninteresting. I saw what they were trying to do with most of the flik, they just didn't pull it off at any pass.

The one thing that kept hitting me the whole time that I watched the film though is that it never hit me how beautiful Blake Lively is. Sure, she's on all the hottest celebrity lists, but what the hell does that mean? There's a certain quality about her that just draws your eye to her.

With all the talk everywhere about raping 10 year old boys at Penn State, this really was a much needed, very welcomed change. This pic here is Lively with Leighton Meester of Gossip Girl fame.

Before you start to think that today's post is just a sex show I'm putting on to throw up pictures of women again, there was a progression this morning from one lady to the next that formulated what I wanted to say, so bear with me here. And remember this picture. Lively led me to Meester, who led me to.....

Minka Kelly (Derek Jeter you dirty dog you!). If you look at these last two shots you can see both women are in the same exact pose, same exact shot, underscoring the unoriginality out there, but also befitting the situation. Meester and Kelly starred together in The Roommate, a trash rip off of another trash film Single White Female. At least this time around the chicks are hotter, but that's not enough. Just like the equally trash reboot of Charlie's Angels, cancelled after 3 episodes, all of this crap is so bad even Kelly's looks can't save it. Proving looks aren't everything.... not even in porn!

Don't ask me how, but somehow Kelly led me to Danielle Lloyd here, and ultimately my point for today's post. Look how sexy she is lying there on the floor like that, right?

That right there is Danielle Lloyd lying on the floor also, covered in blood. Not nearly as sexy this time, is it? Someone attacked her in the streets and left her there a mess like that.

Here she is again, looking as sexy as anything, right? What's not to like, everyone would want some of that. I'm an old fashioned kind of guy, someone who thinks that a man should stand up for women when they deserve it. But many women out there just don't understand what a nasty, nasty world it is out there. Not until this happens.....

And not until it happens to them specifically. We all do that though, don't we? "Not me!"

Sure enough, this morning a court dismissed the case of a 46 year old many stalking 19 year old actress Selena Gomez. I chose not to put any photos of her up because, much like a Penn State Football Coach's favorite play thing, they all look like a 10 year old kid. That's just bad news, potentially devastating news for Gomez, who has a restraining order against the dirty old man.

And that made Gina Carano pop into my mind. In case you don't know, she once ran roughshod through the ranks of Women's MMA before she finally ran into a buzzsaw and got her head handed to her herself.

That's Carano again right here for Maxim. The thought that struck me that so many people refuse to see is that, even in this day and age, women really need to learn how to protect themselves. We all do really, people, there's some real scum out there, and the day that it IS you that it happens to, well, you better know what to do before its you ending up a bloody mess.

Carano then led me to Sarah Ponce here, another MMA fighter. Look how beautiful she is. There's a common misperception that if a woman is athletic or able to defend herself that she has to be some kind of manish brute, a butch, or a lesbian.

But how can anyone look at these pictures and still hold that ideal in their minds? These women are professional fighters, paid to beat the hell out of one another, but that doesn't mean they can't be sexy too. The two aren't mutually exclusive.

If you think she looks bad, you should see the other guy. This here is Elena Reid raising her arms in victory, and it perfectly illustrates my point, because this sexy beast down below is Reid also...

She cleans up pretty good, huh? Damn, I don't about you, but I'd sign up for that in a second. Gorgeous.

The other day I had a conversation about much of this, and somewhere in there I said that Gym class in schools should be replaced with Martial Arts training from the 1st grade through High School Graduation.

Michelle Waterson is a kickboxer. Looks to me that Martial Arts training did her well. But the inclusion of this sort of training in schools would go a long way to solving many of our problems. For one, we have an epidemic of overweight, out of shape people in our society. To a large degree there's a general lack of respect in this country, both for ourselves, and ever more frequently, for the people around us. As a people, we have no discipline. SO many of our troubles come purely from the fact that we can't control ourselves....

And then of course is that violence out there, and there's a lot of it. You're kidding yourself if you think there isn't, it just hasn't touched you yet. Brittney Palmer here is NOT a fighter, but as an Octagon Girl, she IS part of that world.

Could you imagine how much less people would fuck with each other if it was a known FACT that everyone out there has had Martial Arts training their entire lives as part of their upbringing. Could you imagine the effect that would have on American society, being taught from the beginning to respect ourselves and respect one another?

Some friends and I often speak about what things would be like if everyone had to serve in the military after high school like they do in Israel and how much better it would be. This would have the same exact effect without being nearly as extreme. And just look what its done for the ladies.

What do you think?

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