The first is the success of this blog. It seems to be at the beginning stages of a lift off, which is great, and its reminded me of an important idea that most of us miss in going for our glory.
Success comes from a series of small steps and small victories, one thing at a time, one foot after the next.
We all think about the overnight success, but how many of those were just people that were overlooked for a long time until something happened that made everyone notice the work that they had been putting in for years all at the same time? Truth is, that's most of them, we just didn't or couldn't or wouldn't see them before.
That's at the beginning stages for me, which leaves me in a position where I have to change. Sometimes less is more, and you may be getting less of me with the idea of quality over quantity from here on out. A while back I spoke about not getting noticed for the wrong things in my piece 2011 NY Comicon - what NOT to do, and now the same goes for me. When the girl of your dreams finally sees you there you don't want to be drooling all over yourself, so you're only going to be getting something if I think its good enough to give you.
Then again, maybe the girl of your dreams is a drooler too. I have an uncle that used to be able to pick cards off the ground with his spit, no, seriously. He could drool down to the ground from a standing position, touch the card, then suck it all back up card and all.
If that's the kind of guy you are then this is the girl for you, so maybe getting caught out there like that is EXACTLY what you want. What do I know?
Is that really drool falling from her lips? It looks like something else. Come to think of it, there are probably some good things you can do with a hot girlfriend who enjoys this sort of thing.
And honestly, I'm looking like this guy up top lately, without the pleasant disposition, so maybe a drooler is just what I need....
But moving away from the slimed tangent that I slipped on....
The small victories that build up slowly and then seemingly explode into huge success, what my good buddy Walt speaks of often as the Art of Compounding, also have another much greater effect than a simple win that does so much more for every area of your life....
Its the small victories everyday that build confidence by constantly reinforcing the ideal that not only CAN you win, but that you WILL win, every day. You grow to expect it.
This is how belief systems are formed, good or bad. Your brain is constantly looking for reasons why the things you believe are true, examples that prove it. And it finds them every time. If you're winning every day, even in small amounts, it literally shakes the concept of failure right out of your mind. How can anyone believe that they're a loser if all they ever do is win? They can't.
Small wins every day make you believe that....
THAT'S RIGHT! Thank you Winston Churchill! You tell em'!
There's a second, equally important element on the other side of this too. If you're going to stay up and have the energy to keep going every single day, then you're going to need something to get you up in the morning. And then you're going to need things that keep your spirits light and free....
Small victories help with that, but we all need to have things we can't wait for, things to look forward too. Whether its something today, this week, this month, whathaveyou, these are the things that make all the hard work worthwhile.
Show me someone without anything to look forward too and I'll show you someone who's lost hope.
It may only be a soak in the hot tub after a long day, but like a guy who's gotta piss so bad he feels like he's about to blow a gasket down there finally getting to drain it.... sometimes there's no better feeling in the world.
And its up to us to put ourselves in as many situations as you can where there's no better feeling in the world.
We look forward to things because we hope they will give us some of that feeling. You can never give yourself too much of that, but take it away and what have you really got?
For instance, I've been looking forward to putting this picture of Kylie Bisutti up for weeks now, and I don't have to tell you why.... And imagine what a charge you would get if you could look forward to coming home to that every night....
But if you don't believe it will happen, it never will. Even if you get the chance you'll wreck it. So its of the utmost importance that you choose the program your brain runs, what your subconscious tells you.
You do that by feeling like you're on top of the world and that you should be, because you deserve victory. You do that by giving yourself things to look forward to, and building a strong foundation of success upon small wins every day.
But that's all for now.
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